Monday, August 5, 2013

Hitting Balls and Getting Close

HTG about to swing
This past Thursday, Hunky Teacher Guy and I went to Top Golf driving range in Alexandria. Great place. I would totally recommend you going on a date there. Its covered, and they serve beer and wine, and food too. When I went to HTG's place, I drove past at first, and he texted me that I'd passed his house. I texted back that I noticed and that I was circling back around. As soon as he got into my car, he threw the clubs in the back seat and instantly began chatting me up. I was a little surprised because he is usually quiet and takes a few minutes to start opening up. He told me a bit about his neighbors and then began directing me to our destination for the day. It wasnt far from his place, and as we drove, he told me that the route we were driving was also the way he drives to work. I was actually in a flirtatious mood and I made a pass at him, that he totally didnt bite. I thought to myself, "Sha'ahn, maybe you are in the friend zone. And if I am in the friend zone, that needs to be made known TODAY." So, my mind was made up: Date number 5 is gonna determine whether we move forward or stop in our tracks. He'd already been acting as though we were progressing since he hopped in my car, so I took that as a really good sign that things would actually go the way I wanted them to go. We arrived at Top Golf and found a good parking spot near the door. The ground was still wet from the earlier shower. HTG stuck two clubs into a bright red fuzzy club sock and threw them over one shoulder. I gave him my keys to carry since he had on cargo shorts, and I, a dress with shallow pockets. We went inside and HTG bought four games, and got us a spot on the second level. It was pretty cool. The driving range had several holes and scored your shot depending on which hole you hit the ball into. I have never golfed before, so I felt super awkward getting into the proper driving position. I told HTG that I felt weird swinging my arms without bending them at the elbows. HTG said, "Hey, its a Scottish game, what do you expect?" That quip made me laugh and loosened me up. I didnt want to embarrass myself, but then I thought, "How can I possibly embarrass myself? He knows I dont golf." HTG is a good instructor, because he demonstrated what to do, and then gave me good pointers on how to hit the balls where I wanted them to land. I made a few horrible swings at first, but then I got the hang of it. He said that I caught on fast, but he still had to do something. That something was standing behind me, reaching around my waist to grab the club with me and swing saying, "It's all in the hips." I laughed so hard. I said, "the people next to us were probably waiting for you to make that move. I mean how could you bring a date to the range and NOT do that?" He laughed. We took a break and ordered lunch. I had several mimosas and he had two lite beers. He told me to order whatever I wanted, so I opted for the Asian style buffalo wings and sweet potato fries. Then we started to talk. He began telling me (without prompting) about his past relationship and why it didnt last. (thats a good sign, right?) He also talked about his frustration with patrons from the bar he bounces at. I was all ears as he described his biggest pet peeve, lack of common courtesy from other people. This was my way in to express my own dissatisfaction with HTG. I said, "Lack of common courtesy? Well then how do you explain taking hours to reply to my texts sometimes? He thought for a moment before he said, "Common courtesy when in person." I said, "You can't choose when to extend common courtesy. He said, "True, but I just dont find myself sitting much." I said, "Well, I have friends who text me and call and stuff." He said, "They may be desperate." I said, "They may simply want to show me that they are interested in me, how bout that?" He said, "Hey, have I invited you to my house to drink and have sex?" I said, "No." He said, "That's because I'm interested in you." I said, "Oh." He said, "Yeah, I mean, don't we go on nice dates and actually do things when we are together?" I said, "Yes. But I thought maybe you looked at me as someone to hang out with." He just gave me the side-eye. I said, "Fair enough." Somehow, I don't remember quite, but we ended up talking about Walmart face dude and how he wanted a second chance. HTG told me to tell him that he'd already had his chance and now it's too late. I laughed. But guess what? At the end of our date, I felt much more secure about the future of HTG and I, so I actually called Walmart face and told him that I was actually getting closer to someone and decided to take the time to see where it goes. Know what he said to me? He said, "Well, when he's through with you, let me know. I know I'm the better man, but you can't see that. When it's over, maybe you'll give me a shot." What a jerk. I'm also thinking of canceling the date with the new guy that I had set up, only because I'm not physically attracted to him so it'd be a waste of gas to go meet up. I mean, it'd definitely go nowhere. At this point, I'm still seeing Violin Maker and a Navy Guy. I havent written about NG yet...

Anyway, back to the date at hand... We ended up going back to his place for about an hour and I changed outfits to go hang with my girlfriend in DC. I wasn't sure he'd allow me to, but brought my clothes just in case. When I asked if I could get ready at his house, he said yes, and when I got my bag he said, " oh so you knew I'd say yes?" I said, "No, but just in case, I was prepared." Oh, before I forget, he and I were listening to music on my phone in my car, and he told me he was gonna get me a device that allows me to play music through my car speakers using bluetooth. He showed me the one he has. It works using a radio frequency. Cool, huh? That was it for that date. He also told me he changed his tutoring days to Wednesday so we could have more time together on my day off, which is Thursday. That's another good sign, right?

And if you're wondering about whether or not we kissed, the answer is YES!

7 comments:

Power Noir said...

Sha'ahn, THAT was a good date. Wal-Mart face dude sounds like he has got ego issues. HTG seems to be a bit level--which is good. He's opening up...

Sha'ahn said...

Yes, it was good. But we still don't talk on the phone as much as I'd like. I realize from our convos that he's been hurt before and takes a while to trust. Well, me too! A relationship must be earned. Right now, we are both earning the right to get to relationship status

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datingmrmom.com said...

I totally dig your pseudo-names! Much more creative than mine. Walmart face guy makes me laugh every time I read it. And what was your pass that he wiffed on in the car? You guys sound cute together.

Sha'ahn said...

Thanks Mr Mom! I love your names tho! Classics that give a feel for the ladies' personalities. The pass was me talking about how I hate wearing underwear! :P

Anonymous said...

I think HTG is taking his time. Yes, it may be slow, but I think he is trying to show you that he is interested instead of just saying it. Just take it day by day. There has been progress. Look at the things he does instead of focusing on the things he says. You will be surprised how much his actions are saying. Also, if you are confused about something just ask him. He knows he has to make some kind of move or say something soon about having a relationship. I think he thinks as much as you do. He just knows how to hide it. Thanks for sharing.

Sha'ahn said...

Thanks anonymous. I do look at his actions, but Im still not sure. But I do want to see what he will do. Its worth the wait, but until then, Imma date other people.