Sunday, February 8, 2015

New Territory: Why Compete?

Why can't people pursuing a committed relationship just trust each other and bring their best? 

Why is it that two people who like each other enough to want to spend time and even fall in love, always find themselves in defense mode? 

We act as though expressing sentiment or vulnerability will make us appear weak. 

Why is that? 

I asked James as much. 

I said, "Couples should try to outdo one another, but not in a negative way. " 

I think that instead of trying to show the other person how little you can care about them, you should try to show how much you care! 

Couples should spend their time trying to make their partner feel loved. 

"Let's see who can make the other feel the most love! Let's compete that way!"

James said he thought that I had an excellent idea! 

What do you think?

3 comments:

Jewel Edwards-Ashman said...

This is a great idea. I always say a committed relationship shouldn't be 50/50, with each person only giving half. It should be 100/100-- each person giving all they have, and then some. :)

Sha'ahn said...

Exactly. Why compete if we want the same results? Let's work together

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